What makes them?
They’re both children at heart and can laugh at anything. They also make great lovers.
What breaks them?
There are a mountain of differences here… in approach, outlook, skills, desires… and they’ll all need to be bridged by hard-nosed, bottom-line benefits for both. Especially Sagittarius will want comfort for all she has to compromise on.
Can it work?
Against all odds, it can. The thing they have in their advantage is the ability to laugh off anything, including their mistakes and differences. They will fall out over a ton of things and always pull in different directions, but there is no real malice behind the slow-burning Cancer-Sag romance.
It almost provides a source of never-ending entertainment for their family and friends once Sagittarius Woman and Cancer Man discover they will never be on the same page on many things, but these lovers have enough of a bridge between their worlds for the attraction to be sustained by purpose.
It may take him a while to get everything together at the standard he requires, but Cancer will always come out as the dependable, solid “family man” bet by sundown. Sagittarius has spent much of her adolescence and youth hovering from party to party, not even necessarily dabbling in the darker arts of such a lifestyle (considering she has an extremely upbeat perspective on life) but knowing she does not want to miss out on life’s possibilities.
Truthfully, her heart is not nearly as cynical as her execution. She’ll meet plenty of flattering and affable lovers but find none of them hold the same gravitas as the stare of a Cancer male who means business.
This is the first man she’s encountered who means and delivers on what he says, or forever holds his peace. Their preliminary flirting sessions can intrigue Sagittarius because Cancer seems to show a side of himself to her that he would hide from the rest of the world. What women doesn’t love that? She encounters him at the usual parties but he is always the one to leave slightly early.
Time shows Sagittarius that her Cancer love interest proves a wholesome man with enough fear of rejection to match her vulnerable hope for happiness. If he can quietly lure her in with the prospect of benefits and security away from a lifestyle that gradually takes toll on her lonesome routine, she convinces herself Cancer is worth her time and commitment in trying to put a smile on his face.
As soon as they begin to spend most of their time together, it is a careful negotiation of terms and figuring out just how far one side will cave before making a stand. For instance, Cancer’s possessiveness rises to the surface and he’ll soon demand changes to the landscape of Sagittarius’ social life.
How many friends Sagittarius will put on the back burner for the Cancer goods to keep flowing into their joint coffers is a variable that changes over time and necessity. She won’t object to the gradual transition from beer keg to wedding anniversaries, just as long as she can get the same amount of social kudos from her circle of friends for her progression.
Sagittarius also has very little tolerance or desire to an exclusive audience-of-one to Cancer’s more dramatic and dark moods, but Cancer could be convinced to take his frustrations out on a well-timed holiday vacation, in exchange for the prospect of one-on-one time with his Sag lover (he should be so privileged!)
Eventually, they’ll both laugh at themselves. Their friends and family possibly warned them of their differences and Cancer-Sagittarius know they’ll never completely overcome them. But this two have hearts of gold and won’t be tempted to use skullduggery to transform the other’s way of thinking. The simple decision is whether they have a good enough thing not to go searching for a better deal somewhere else.
The secret factor swinging the balance in their favour is the potential for discovery and sensuality in lovemaking. Sagittarius is a known (although she wouldn’t have it known too publicly) adventurous and experimental lover. Cancer is equally as attentive and doesn’t particularly need to try hard in turning on his partners… he just has the magic hands like that. You can’t find a substitute for natural talent. Sagittarius will revel in the feelings Cancer provokes out of every inch of her being, and use her daring to heighten their pleasure.
If these two had the ability to touch a single malicious nerve in each other, across their sea of differences, we’d warn to stay well away. However, sometimes fate intervenes to bring the best out of opposites and that is no more evident than when Cancer male and Sagittarius female get together for a lasting union.