Strong bankers for success in this relationship
This is a child-like fairytale romance where Prince Charming meets his Princess. In a nutshell, that is all they’ve both ever wanted.
Potential pitfalls to this dating couple
There is a problem getting it started, as Cancer may turn too mushy or remain too distant early on. If they do get it together, the arguments won’t be pretty. They can transform into two hot-heads on an emotional rollercoaster, doing or resorting to anything to get their way.
Can it work?
It can work wonderfully, but Cancer male really needs to be at a stage in his life (either very young or in his mid thirties) where he can put up with what’s needed to keep Aries happy.
Tell any Cancer male the timing of this relationship is key, and he will probably laugh as he believes that timing is essential to everything. He bides his time in love and career and refuses to compromise. Because he often finds he likes the glamour and prestige of certain social settings (even if he doesn’t understand why he likes it) he can often find himself the subject of muted ridicule or puzzlement from his colleagues and friends. One of those socialites crossing his path will certainly be an Aries woman, but they may not notice each other if Cancer is unprepared to “arrive” to the party on his own terms.
Unlike Aries female, Cancer male will stay in close quarters until he feels ready to earn his desires. His “disappearing act” routine means some people mistake him for a loser or a loose-cannon, but he won’t react to outside opinion whereas Aries woman is prone to let even idle strangers know she is hurt by misconceptions about her. To him, the nay-sayers are just more names carefully filtered through the Cancer net on the way to happiness and success.
He wants a close-knit circle of people he can trust and will do anything to weed out threats. Aries woman approaches her question of happiness totally differently. At a young age, she carelessly wears heart on sleeve and the same social ridicule will (rightly or wrongly) convince her that she has to hide her emotions before long.
There is an obvious mutual benefit to an Aries-Cancer romance here, as Aries can find the safety net of Cancer works as a shield for both of them and convinces herself to take another gamble in opening up completely to her Cancer mate. They will have to meet each other either as very young adolescents (where differences do not prematurely get in the way) or later in Cancer’s life where he feels settled in all he offers to a relationship.
They are two wells of emotion who gradually begin to recognize their common need for security and attachment, but they want these elements on completely different terms. He will have to see the funny side in how she puts herself out there, often making child-like comments without thinking about it, and he might be prompted to save her from her gaffes whilst letting her know he’s interested.
As long as he plays the Aries game, not giving himself entirely to her until they are well into their romance, she is thrilled to discover layers to her Cancer man and takes it up as her own personal challenge to uncover his mystery. Another mistake following Aries around is her habit for confrontation, even if she genuinely does not mean or desire arguments.
She has enough experience to know her hot-headed ways can often be outwitted by more calm and mannered creatures, but she mistakenly believes she has found a sparring partner in Cancer male who prioritizes emotions also. Cancer male spends enough time to himself to learn self-control and emotional intelligence, but his big mistake is confusing this for logic.
He willingly enters into arguments with Aries, thinking he can teach her something, and they both find it hard to see where they keep going from 0 to 100 in 2 seconds flat. They are simply fire and ice that should be kept apart if they are not ready to approach key disagreements with the necessary maturity it takes for a lifetime relationship.
She may be wrong on certain things and not care, because Aries craves adventure where Cancer grows to become more home-dwelling. In this, she is as uncompromising as he is and friends can quickly turn to foes.
Cancer will simply have to learn to keep accepting Aries for who she is, in the same manner he does when they make love. In the bedroom, she sees something loving in his eyes that makes her open up completely. The temptation with such an outstanding sexual connection is to think make-up sex will plaster over their differences. But Aries will never change for anyone.
Even though they have a wonderful ability to worship each other in public (much to Aries’ delight), the truth is Aries values social acceptance whereas Cancer can survive without it. He will indulge her with enough affection, gifts and quality time at the dinner table to make her feel like a princess. She will simply have to decide whether these moments are enough to give him the family unit that they would benefit from.
They will both find happiness in settling down, but Aries would prefer to not see it in those terms. She needs a Cancer who can continue to make her feel like her inner child will never die, or she will leave when the arguments get too serious and repetitive.
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For more information on this love compatibility profile, visit Nancy Fenn’s page on the Cancer Male-Aries Female couple. She is not affiliated with us but we often read her unique take on the sun sign romances with interest.